pezisforwussies

That actually sounds exactly like what happened. I always heard that people struggling with addiction needed support and I had never seen that before, I guess turning into a mother was all I could think to do.

Also for the people wanting some hope, she is fine now, or so I hear. She moved away after rehab, which I think was one of the best things she could have done for herself.

I knew someone who became addicted to heroin and just curled away, she had her "heroin" friends who were always all helping each other "get good" for the day to make it through work and all that. I stayed around it for a while out of morbid curiosity since I had never been around a hard drug like that. Also because I cared about the person and was trying to steer her away.

After about 2 weeks she started to just drop off the map. I wouldn't hear from her for days at a time and when I did it was when she was trying to quit, so I would load up on things the internet told me were useful for withdrawal and she would try to actually be done with it... For about a day or two usually.

After a few times of that she just started to seem to hate me, I'd not given up on her and I always had a place for her to try to detox if she wanted to try to quit again. I would talk to her and as soon as I started to mention quitting it felt like I had backed a mongoose into a damn corner.

There is so much more to the story but I think the skeleton of it is there so my question is, what else could I have done? What does someone who has zero control over the person do when they choose to run away from the people trying to help? Do you just stop bringing up the fact that they have a problem to keep them around or do you push them away by trying to help?