pchandler45

I am an American woman who lived in Jordan for 3 years. I lived and worked in Wadi Rum. We had a lot of Saudi men come over thru the desert to try to hook up with tourist women, and to drink alcohol. It was definitely an eye-opening experience for me. What really irked me is how these guys would look for "western" women to sleep with and thats Ok, but g-d forbid his wife/sister looked another man in the eyes. I don't get how the familys honor is tied to only the women.

My Jordanian boyfriend told me a story once about how his sister had an admirer who left some perfume for her in a public place. When she was found with it, the grandparents and extended family wanted her parents to kill her but they refused. That seems pretty harmless to me but they said she disgraced the family. (She was like 15-16!!)

We also went round and round many times about my looking a man in the face or accidentally smiling at a man. (old habits die hard)

How do you tell the difference between laziness and depression?