parikuma56 karma2020-10-13 17:07:31 UTC
Do you have good recommendations in the vein of the first movement of Edgar's Cello Concerto? (beautifully shown in a masterclass by Benjamin Zander, who perhaps you have met?)
All the best for your performance! Break a leg!
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parikuma31 karma2020-09-26 19:00:27 UTC
This is really on point.
You mention elsewhere that "at the time you thought you were part of the good guys" and I think you were and you are: we need people facing that difficult work. The issue is all too often that before you intervene there's a lot of things that a society could have done (mental health support, social support in difficult areas, integration programs) but really didn't care do to at a significant scale (because it didn't invest in it).
There's been a growing trend across many typically rich democratic countries to completely slash the budget of anything except repression, and I think everyone ends up being a victim of this: people who end up in prison (with mandatory minimums shown to not work, etc), the justice system (overwhelmed), and the Police that is forced to take on tasks of social and mental support that it is absolutely not designed and prepared for.
I hope that in the more recent years of your life you have had the opportunity to get the support you deserve for all you've had to deal with, and I hope all of society will get there someday - so that people in your kind of job have less work and less PTSD to face (and less victims, and less crime..).
parikuma19 karma2020-06-27 17:10:06 UTC
While a relationship is essential for therapy to flourish, a relationship with a therapist is not bound by the same terms as long-lasting friendships or family relationships: you don't owe them the same things and things aren't as bilateral.
If they accept treating you, what you owe them is sincerity, respect, and at least a hint of willingness to let the discourse unravel. What they owe you is respect, and doing their best at helping you with the tools they have or can acquire, and to remove their ego from the equation if and when it is helpful to you to do so.
As a corollary to the reply above, if your therapist is reacting with anything but empathy when you respectfully question their choices and words or when you seek additional information, it's a sign to GTFO. True of psychiatrists too - if you need context and understanding of your treatment and you don't get that, someone else can and will offer that to you.
Needless to say that if you, as a patient, are reacting without respect for your therapist, they are also free to sever the relationship. They do what they do for you and others, but they don't exist entirely for you.
And I agree with the "you don't dread visiting them" thing, with the emphasis on them when visiting.
A lot of people might still dread the visit itself, but if it's not about the person then that isn't a problem - and might even be a sign that they put you in a zone of discomfort for growth.
parikuma7 karma2020-05-21 01:12:59 UTC
Just in case you'd like it, I think it's worth mentioning the cabra romero rosemary goat cheese :)
parikuma6 karma2020-05-16 16:03:40 UTC
It's great to be able to chat with pros who have such a passion, I hope it all works out for you!
1- Why a puzzle co-op? Not having the single-player market and having to deal with the mechanics of two players seems like a gamble for a smaller studio, which leads me to the next question..
2- Have you been inspired by the successes of Human Fall Flat and Death Squared for the direction taken? (Co-op puzzles)
3- Do you know about Miegakure? Any cool concept like that in store for your game?
4- Need any QA/testers with a tech background? (was devops and qa in another field, happy to help for free)
4- Just had to ask: Best poutine in Montréal? (My bias is for Ma poule mouillée btw) - and Best restaurant in Mtl? :)
Bon courage et bonne chance à vous!
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