no1grammarnazi

It is tough. I'm dealing with it, though. Finally got my diagnosis a few months ago, after a year in therapy. I'm on the waitlist for a support group right now, but who knows how long that's going to take... Any advice is good advice, so thanks a bunch!

Do you think people with Asperger's should try to adapt to society, and learn all the weird social norms and stuff? I honestly just feel like I'm acting a lot of the time. My family and my boyfriend are the only people I don't have to pretend around, but they're also the only people who have actually stayed in my life. Sometimes it seems like all the trying and failing and exhaustion just isn't worth it.

How do I "improve bit by bit" if I don't know what I'm doing wrong? I absolutely cannot read body language, facial expressions, etc. Even trying completely wears me out within an hour or two (depending on the people I'm with).

So yes, I have Asperger's. I usually make friends, hang out with them for 2-6 months, until they (for some reason) stop contacting me. Every time I talk to them after that, I just feel clingy, and withing another month or two, I just stop bothering. It seems like I've tried every possible combination of actively getting in touch with people, and at the same time giving them space.

I keep telling my boyfriend I want to give up on the whole "friends" thing, and he keeps telling me I can't. Any ideas?