mypretties

I have South Asian background myself, and have experienced close to what you have. When my father passed away I was only 19, one of 5 siblings (two of which under 11 yrs old), and my mom started to really break down mentally. She had depression/anxiety issues before, but after my father's death- it was a whole other level. Due to taboo of seeking out professional mental healthcare (back home, only really "insane" people who are hospitalized in facilities visit mental healtcare professionals).

For a few years, her personality had changed. She was irritated easily, yelled constantly, had crying spells, and couldn't keep composure at times, and at times had a scary amount of composure (zombie like). It was extremely difficult on her financially as well.

My advice is don't ever give up on her. Treat her with love and respect, and always let her know things are fine now- things are secure, and that everything will be fine. Give her hugs, and tell her you love her. (South Asian kids usually don't straight out say MOM I LOVE YOU- it's a little corny). But I started to say it...she was a bit weirded out, and now she freely says it to all of us. Also, try to slowly break her taboo of seeking professional help. Say things like "it's always nice to talk to someone when you're a little stressed". Tell them you went to one, and it was a delight because she just talked/listened. (I actually did do this). etc. But never pressure. She'll feel like you think she's crazy/senile, and feel attacked. And always, lots of hugs and I love yous. :)

Good luck! You have my best wishes.

So wait- he paid child support for 12 whole years, and his wife had no idea where this money was going?