myownwingman

That's what I hear from my female friends who use the site. Wingman uses it to his advantage by asking for funny stories while chatting. Sure-fire ice-breaker and I hear some real howlers.

Guys, don't send women a picture of your junk.

No, not at all. The other week I set up a date with a cool girl I'd e-mailed with a few times. The night before the date, wingman chatted her up and found out a few things:

1. She's been looking to meet someone for a while, and has tried several sites.

2. She had some random hookups in college but has been so stressed out by work lately that she hasn't gotten any action in several months.

3. She's indeed a really smart, nice, friendly girl.

The date I went on with her was a lot of fun and we made plans to see eachother again after the holidays. Good stuff.

A few hours later, wingman gets an e-mail from her saying "hi, you online?"

I could be jealous of her thinking about another dude a few hours after our date, but that'd be silly. She can think whatever she likes, and it was just a coffee date. I probably think of a few different women in any given day even if I'm into someone.

Plus, it's wingman. EVERYONE's into him. He's awesome. Just like there are some women who any guy would admit are gorgeous and be interested in, Wingman's a good looking dude who's funny, knowing, and has an air of being kind of "done with" stuff. That puts people at ease and makes him fun to chat with. Of course she likes him.

So no, not worried about that.

I don't get dates this way. I prepare for them. I get dates on my own ok, but I always fall into whatever traps the girl sets for me. I had three great dates with someone who then wanted to go to a movie. I didn't know she wanted to go so she could test to see if I talk during movies. I said some stuff during whatever we saw and never heard from her again. Weeks later after I created wingman, he had a long chat with her where she told him how much she hates people who talk during movies. Wingman could have saved me there.

Now, with him, I can anticipate the girls tests and pass them with flying colors so we can get past that silly stuff.

This is a good point. I'll ping him tomorrow. he's a buddy. We'll work it out.

I hear ya man. Let me say this. Wingman right now is helping me understand this dating thing better. I was in a long-ass relationship with someone that ended a few years ago. Suddenly I had to date and quickly learned that not every woman was as into me as the one I'd dated for three years. So it's been really hit or miss, and I realized it would continue to be like that until I found a way to get honest feedback so I could understand what was happening. Wingman serves that purpose. He'll retire soon, but right now he's helping me not waste people's time and figure out how the heck to deal with these city women.