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myIDateyourEGO38 karma

Cooking for people helps. If people feel inclined to help, ask them to help with meals for your family a bit so you all can concentrate on the time you have. Unless, of course, you enjoy cooking together. Than have at it.

I cannot imagine and I have no real words - but I'm going to go hug my kids now, and value today a bit more. Thank you for that.

myIDateyourEGO19 karma

While what happened to you sucks...

You made bad choices and had bad values that set your experiences in motion.

All these words here - there's not a DROP of personal responsibility.

The "someone forced me" stuff didn't start until you were WELL into a series of not-smart choices.

And the "I was 18" shit is a crock. Plenty of 18 year olds navigate shit and make it through. YOU didn't. That's some failing on YOUR part. YOU choose to work with them, YOU chose not to earn an hourly wage and instead sell off something in an industry no one in the right fucking mind even at 18 thinks is gonna be great for women.

Yeah - it sucks. And that bit is gonna be ignored because someone DARED to reduce your 100% victim status by a couple notches...

The reality here? Is that you've got a history of making shit choices that began before you were 18. Maybe it came from your childhood, your environment - probably, in fact.

But you? You need to start making better choices. You weren't an A student, you didn't earn a scholarship, you sure as hell weren't gonna muck it up and climb a ladder from the dirt-floor up. You saw what you thought would be an easy money-making venture and it backfired - BIG.

And that's because you, not because you were 18, but because you were irresponsible and foolish, made bad choices.

No one else here will tell you the hard truths. Your experience is NOT the same as being raped in an alley, being slipped some drugs. Your ENTIRE EXPERIENCE could only happen because of choices you made to put things into motion. It isn't the same as being date-raped.

There is no doubt in my mind the hate I will receive.

That's fine.

But I live in a world where the guy who gets hooked on opioids after being on prescribed pills for surgery isn't, actually, in reality-land, the same as the idiot who just picks up a needle.

You're the idiot with the needle in this case - both are victims, but one did a whole lot more to get themselves there and IGNORING THAT will never help that person grow.

So hate on. That's fine. But any young woman who reads this story and doesn't think to themselves "well she was kinda stupid" isn't doing a lot to advance women.

Safety, freedom - see, it all requires RESPONSIBILITY too.

I'm gonna guess you are a victim - of maybe some shit in your childhood, or certainly some shitty values being taught to you. I'm gonna guess your pack of friends aren't ACTUALLY the most upstanding people in the world and haven't been for a long time, right?

That's not everyone else's fault. You were SHOCKED your BEEEEST FRIEEEEEND condemned you for doing porn once it was seen.

Yeah, should be a values clue - but it isn't. It never was for you. It never crossed your mind why people who care about you hated seeing that shit, did it?

It was because they didn't UNDERSTAND you or some shit, they just didn't get it?

Nope. Turns out your peer-aged best friend had more sense than you and just couldn't believe you'd gone down that stupid road in the first place. See, your best friend was bright enough to know you'd gone and signed up.

myIDateyourEGO-1 karma

Sure.

Better than being a social and financial burden on everyone with being a junkie who tallies up what's probably hundreds of thousands in care he's certainly never going to pay for.

You seem addicted to thinking everyone is a poor victim.

myIDateyourEGO-1 karma

Nope. Just tired of everyone being a victim and no one being responsible.

Miracle.

10,000 kids will die today of starvation never having had the chance to be a fuckup.

myIDateyourEGO-32 karma

He used to inhale heroin off of tinfoil.

That happens by choice.