mistress_magpie

Hi, I'm Mistress Magpie, in Plymouth.

I'm a professional BDSM Mistress and a member of the BDSM scene for ten years. Not having read your book yet, I like your reaction to this debacle, and I applaud and support your efforts to listen to women's rights experts.

A few questions:

1) I work closely with issues of consent on a daily basis, coming from a feminist and egalitarian philosophical and political viewpoint. Our community, although it has its own struggles around consent, has a wealth of experience in setting up situations where the kind of behaviour you're encouraging in guys is totally OK and welcome. Will you be talking to any BDSM experts - for example, Mollena Williams - for your rewrite?

2) I notice you're using women's rights instead of feminist as a descriptor for the groups you're contacting. Is there a way that interested voices can get involved in the process?

3) How do you feel about the gender politics of the seduction community in general?

4) Can seduction/pickup help submissive men find partners?

Hi Kitad, this is a common fallacy among submissive people trying to attract a partner - what I have found is that dominants of either gender are attracted to strong, interesting people who have their shit together. Or, they are actually sociopaths posing as dominants and should be avoided at all costs! So, to attract a sane, healthy and reasonable dominant partner, my thoughts are that a sub guy should look and feel as good as he can, strive to be employed and/or to contribute otherwise to society, etc. The techniques I see in seduction books - or at least the bits that I've seen in reddit and other places - seem geared to an alpha male type so are not relevant to sub guys.

Thanks for your responses and I have just dropped you an email.

A soaring magpie with a stick in one claw and a gas mask in the other. :)

BDSM mistress here. I haven't looked at cosmo in years - is there some good writing about BDSM these days?