I was on a similar boat as you were on when I was young - spent too much time playing mmos until I dropped out of college within 4 semesters and just after spending 10 years doing home school during my high school days.
Long story short, I decided after dropping out that I wouldn't want my parents to make more effort in my life, so I decided to work in corporate, first as an intern and then 8 years later became a self taught data analyst that now dabbles in basic-intermediate coding and unofficial spokesperson during office meetings and social events.
Having said that, I have a few questions for you.
I got over my gaming addiction by basically just trying hard to reinforce a habit of completing more important activities and obligations and turn gaming as a form of reward for a "hard days" work. The problem is that, people (in laws and sister in particular) just won't accept the fact that gaming is my hobby and that they make an effort to make me feel uncomfortable during my gaming sessions, often gaslighting me to the point it triggers me to become defensive in my activities, which inadvertly proves them right. How do I deal with this constructively? I still have anger issues coming from my past experiences in life that I haven't yet come to terms with, so that adds to the tension everytime they do their thing while I am gaming.
In my years of struggle to control myself, I still cannot say I am 100% clean. There are times in my life, especially after question #1, that life just hits me harder than how I can control myself and I just say fuck it and just revert back to my old gamer self for at least a day or two to recuperate. What would be your advice to me to help me reduce this need to self destruct during difficult times?
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I was on a similar boat as you were on when I was young - spent too much time playing mmos until I dropped out of college within 4 semesters and just after spending 10 years doing home school during my high school days.
Long story short, I decided after dropping out that I wouldn't want my parents to make more effort in my life, so I decided to work in corporate, first as an intern and then 8 years later became a self taught data analyst that now dabbles in basic-intermediate coding and unofficial spokesperson during office meetings and social events.
Having said that, I have a few questions for you.
I got over my gaming addiction by basically just trying hard to reinforce a habit of completing more important activities and obligations and turn gaming as a form of reward for a "hard days" work. The problem is that, people (in laws and sister in particular) just won't accept the fact that gaming is my hobby and that they make an effort to make me feel uncomfortable during my gaming sessions, often gaslighting me to the point it triggers me to become defensive in my activities, which inadvertly proves them right. How do I deal with this constructively? I still have anger issues coming from my past experiences in life that I haven't yet come to terms with, so that adds to the tension everytime they do their thing while I am gaming.
In my years of struggle to control myself, I still cannot say I am 100% clean. There are times in my life, especially after question #1, that life just hits me harder than how I can control myself and I just say fuck it and just revert back to my old gamer self for at least a day or two to recuperate. What would be your advice to me to help me reduce this need to self destruct during difficult times?
Thank you.
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