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What can parents do to support a child who struggles with perfectionism? Teaching environment is only one factor that influences the student outcome and we need to be on the same page with parents about the approaches we take at home to be consistent and work with them together as a team!

It’s also true that many children and adolescents have taken a big step back in their social and emotional development (SEL) due to social isolation in the past 2 years, and exhibiting more anxiety and pathologies in which perfectionism, emotional dysregulation, ADHD and OCD are rampant in our kids.

Do you have any concrete tools or framing in working with kids that have been effective for curbing perfectionism tendencies?

One other consideration is if the kids have a perfectionist parent(s) who scold or shame kids for not being perfect, and thus kids get upset for not doing something right at the first try or acting out when things don’t happen like how they imagined. I think the underlying emotion they experience is fear (of failure) and anxiety (of the unknown consequences of doing something ‘wrong’). How can we equip our kids better to deal with unrealistic expectations, whether that’s internally driven or externally pressured?

First, thank you for doing the work you're doing! I'm coming into this convo a little bit late but I hope you still have time to answer this question!

The first time I really read about Haiti is through Tracy Kidder's novel "Mountains Beyond Mountains". Haiti is considered to have been a real wake up call for the international humanitarian system, and you've already spoken a little about the cluster approach, but how effective do you think these structural changes have been on the ground overall? Based on your experience how can people (ngo to ngo, govt to ngo, ngo to locals, etc) communicate better or work differently for long term sustainability of Haiti?

Thanks in advance! :)