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Why is your lip art / intellectual property venture not called L-IP, and on a scale from 8 to 10 how much do you regret that decision?

Fuck man, 10 miscarriages is brutal. So sorry to hear that.

We've experienced a first trimester miscarriage three weeks ago. It was hard to lose the baby and the contrast between the excitement and joy and the sudden realisation (we only knew once they took an echo at 10 weeks and there was no heartbeat) that it was all gone was pretty dark. And for my wife especially, on top of the emotional aspects, there was the physical side to it, where she had to have the foetus removed because there were no signs of her body starting the termination by itself (and this can take weeks).

We never expected it to happen, we were completely taken by surprise. But it happens, and it happens a lot: around 35% of pregnancies end prematurely, if I'm not mistaken.

What kept us going through all of this was each other, our 2.5 year old son, and having a positive outlook, knowing that it will be a matter of time before we get pregnant again.

That might not exist anymore for your brother. He may very well feel that the next pregnancy is likely to be another horrible experience of losing a baby. He might have to see his wife again going through a termination, either natural or surgical, and the recovery from that, both physically and mentally. Waiting for her to regain her cycle, timing the ovulation, having non-spontaneous sex a few times to try to conceive... It really is a terrible situation to be in.

On top of your brother locking up his emotions, there is also a taboo around this topic. Again, so many pregnancies end prematurely, but nobody talks about it. And being 10 miscarriages in probably doesn't lower that threshold. That is my best guess of how your brother feels.

Talking about miscarriages is necessary. I did with my wife (obviously) and my best friend. I also go to counseling one day a month to deal with my high pressure job, and I talked to my counselor about it. She confirmed that talking is indeed important. And your brother may be talking with his wife or maybe your parents already. Whether your are the right person to talk to for him, is for him to decide. What you best can do is to create a safe, judgement free, no pressure, zero consequences environment for him to talk to you and let it happen naturally. Don't initiate or hint to him to talk about it, just make sure that he feels that he can if he needs to. And remember, if it doesn't happen, that can be perfectly fine too. As long as he is talking about it enough to be able to cope, he'll be OK.

I'm not buying into your slippery slope and your reversing of the burden of proof.

A. Social media are not regulated, and are privately owned by publicly listed companies. They can set their own policies.

B. If you claim something, provide evidence. The NY Post article does not have evidence that supports it's claims, because it's either circumstantial, insufficient proof towards the claim, or unverifiable.

C. Providing unverfiable evidence and then requiring proof that it has been tampered with in order to be able to not consider it acceptable is the wrong way around.

Fair point. Yet the biggest lie by Trump might outshine the biggest lie by Biden with the strength of every star in our galaxy, creating some kind of true perspective on the situation nonetheless.