mayor-grimmace

Worth noting: she has childhood trauma. That same trauma that she's been unraveling through therapy is what she is projecting onto me now (she all of a sudden claims that I do all these same things as well, which is literally delusional). She also had a history of substance abuse (alcohol) coupled with depression, finally gave that up about 9 months ago, and moved to THC edibles and seemed a lot better until a few months ago...

My wife of 10+ years seems to be undiagnosed bipolar and has been moving through mania for several months now (was going to write a book in a weekend, become an all-time great drummer, had telepathic powers, etc.) and she has since focused her energy on unearthing every negative moment in our relationship and believes I have been her "tormentor" all these years. She has now run away with our kids and cut off all contact with me and has had some rage-filled episodes recently (destroyed our home, nearly assaulted a neighbor).

I'm working through the legal parts of this with a family attorney, but what I'm struggling with is - what should I expect if the courts decide to take the kids away from her and bring them back home to me? Like will she crash instantly into a depression? I've seen her there before and she is likely to harm herself. But she's in a phase where she believes everything she is saying is correct, has blocked all family and friends on her phone, and has no support network other than her time being with our kids.

TLDR: After my first priority of getting the kids to safety and stability, I'm trying to determine how me/others can support her to seek help and remain safe.