Last night I had a date with someone who will be a long-term partner. We were fooling around a little, and as soon as things started to escalate, she asked if we should wait, and I said "sure." She then got incredibly scared and started shaking, and she was very worried that I was upset (I am not a guy who gets upset at all, so that was strange). She had told me that her ex had taken advantage of her and was a very angry person. How do I go about things? I feel like going at her pace should help out her feelings a bit, but I'm not sure how to dissociate the experience with her ex from myself. What kinds of things usually help in this situation?
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Last night I had a date with someone who will be a long-term partner. We were fooling around a little, and as soon as things started to escalate, she asked if we should wait, and I said "sure." She then got incredibly scared and started shaking, and she was very worried that I was upset (I am not a guy who gets upset at all, so that was strange). She had told me that her ex had taken advantage of her and was a very angry person. How do I go about things? I feel like going at her pace should help out her feelings a bit, but I'm not sure how to dissociate the experience with her ex from myself. What kinds of things usually help in this situation?
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