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I guess everyone is different. 3x a week avg first decade we were married. 2x a week 2nd decade. 1x a week 3rd decade. 1x every 10 days or so into the 4th decade but mostly once a week. Have no idea if that’s normal but pretty normal for us. But once a month for a couple in their lates 20’s early 30’s seems like not enough for most people. Young kids can really sap your energy. Date nights are important and if money is tight trade off sitting with friends.

Having 4 kids I’ve owned a lot of cars. First 100k Honda’s and Toyota’s both rock. 2nd 100k Toyota’s all the way. I took an rx350 I bought with 50k to 200k and essentially did basic maintenance and fluids. Trading in a GX470 I bought 10 years old and drove it for 6 years after that and only thing I did was spark plugs at 120, brakes once, and oil/filters. 16 years old and still running great I’m just ready for newer features like blind spot, etc. I find these older Lexus some little old lady barely touched. Get a good deal and they run.

I meant trade off baby sitting if money is tight.

I can see you live in the day. I have a rare disease that although not debilitating for me causes a lot of pain and slowly gets worse over time. I try real hard to live in the day because today may be the best day I get. But some days it’s just hard. What do you do on those hard days to not look ahead? I mean I could worry about what 5 or 10 years means and then poof somebody finds a cure or new drug and I’d of wasted all the time worrying. And it won’t change the present anyway. That’s kind of how I do it but curious if you have any pointers. I’m having one of those days.

And sending you best wishes! Hope you have a great day today.

Distraction is key. I do pretty well during the day as long as I don’t do to much. I can’t walk too far so I started fishing instead. Least I’m outside. Try to find somethings that are enjoyable is a key and finding people that will Support you just where you are. I found some meds that have helped a lot and kept me off disability so I’m thankful for modern medicine.

Anyway all my best and thanks for responding.