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lilith480239 karma

As a woman who's never been raped, I'll just say that women are very different from person to person or even from day to day when it comes to orgasming. Some women can get off on just stimulation alone, while some need to get into the psychological aspect of it. Sometimes it depends where you are in your menstrual cycle (eg easier to get off while ovulating). Some women have really sensitive clitorises and/or g-spots, and if stimulated a certain way they will always get off. So, I can imagine that for many (but maybe not all) female rape victims, it really just was that they were being stimulated the "right" way.

lilith480179 karma

Umm, I'm not even going to address the other reply you got, which sounds like total BS. If you read what OP said in another response:

in treatment we talk more about the idea of physically responding or "feeling good" during the assault. So when I say orgasm I'm including pre-orgasmic feelings as well.

So their number is including any kind of pleasure during the rape, not necessarily the actual achievement of orgasm.

lilith480175 karma

Ok, I'll admit I haven't put a lot of thought into this, but I can see that reclassification as potentially having a negative effect. For instance, if rape is classified as a "violent crime", then there could be many victims (and non-victims eg Todd Akin) who come to the conclusion that if the rape wasn't violent, it wasn't a "legitimate" rape. In my opinion we should be moving away from trying to perpetually link rape to violence and physical force (even though violence and physical force may be involved), because those things aren't always involved in rape.

lilith480133 karma

Do you generally mention in your first session with a victim that some victims experience pleasure and/or orgasms and that this is normal?