lifeishowitis

Really amazing job on your part. That had to be incredibly hard. There are tons of women who know what is going on but don't stop it in any real sense because of the kind of co-dependency issues you said you struggle with. I knew one lady who just put a lock on her daughters' door and called it a day. Obviously, that did not solve the problem. So, really strong and brave about it especially in such a precarious position with citizenship.

My question is: have you made any decisions about how you are going to deal with this in the future? I saw you said you do not bring it up but when she asks questions, you answer. Is that the game plan? And in the unlikely event she doesn't ask questions, would you bring it up to her?

Do you want to get her in therapy about it now or think that would be counter-productive for this age/at this point in time? Maybe later, or only if she starts showing some symptoms of sexual abuse?

Again, from whatever it means from internet stranger, I am so proud (hate that word, but it is what comes to mind) of you for handling it like you did, and not alarming her in the middle of the night and making her deal with the additional trauma of fighting and the arrest.

What made you visit the pygmies in the first place? Did you go to the Congo for that purpose, or were you there visiting the friends you mentioned maybe and...?

I think it is great that you are going the route where you buy their freedom instead of getting the "higher up corrupt involved." What were your reasons for going this route? I would love to see a whole article on that, it reminds me of the work the Nature Conservancy does, except a million times better.

Typical education in your village?

Is it that palace thing?