lgyfs

I know someone being harassed right now, and she's afraid to go about the protection order thing because she's afraid it will make her stalker get angrier and resort to violence. At this point, it's him sending her unwanted sexts, texting her 100+ times/day, asking her friends about her, and not leaving her alone after she's made it clear that she doesn't want him to contact her. I'm not close to her, just an acquaintance. I went through a little safety plan with her (where to stay if things get bad, get an emergency phone he doesn't know about, emergency fund, list of things for an "emergency pack" for the car, etc.), but not sure what else to say, since I obviously can't force her to do anything, especially since we're not close friends. Her actual friends are even telling her that she's overreacting, that she should ignore it, which really, really pisses me off because they're her friends and they could be the best resource for her but won't be.

At what point do you go to police? What do I say? How can I be helpful?

Edit: Thanks for the resources, everyone. I'll sift through and give her some more resources.

Your username is absolutely perfect.

Also, what is the effect of a j-pouch versus a normal working digestive system? Are your stools different in any way? Do you go more/less often? Do you still have residual pains and such from the UC (or is it considered "cured" once you have the procedure)?

I'm glad to hear everything has gotten better for you! Since your colon no longer absorbs all that water, does this mean you have to drink more water than the average person? If so, how much more? I was reading up on the condition and I hear you've got higher risks for kidney stones, might this be the reason why?

This thread has been really enlightening for me. I should be less whiny about my own (undiagnosed) medical problems, which pale in comparison to the daily pain/struggle of people with IBD. (I visited /r/CrohnsDisease and holy hell, I need to shut up and stop whining, that sounds fucking terrible!)