I'm not sure how much this will help, but I find myself doing this a lot and the the thing that has most helped me is to follow up/respond to initial thoughts with a better version of them. So with envious thoughts like "I wish I looked like her," I come back (in my head to my own thought) with, "wow she is beautiful in her own way; I don't have to be beautiful in the same way she is." In the same manner, if I'm having a meaner thought thinking about someone negatively and associating myself with that, I try to respond to my initial thought with "she doesn't need to be [insert "positive" trait here] to be important and worthy and neither do I."
It's natural to look at other people and make comparisons both positive and negative; for me, it's just about responding with constructive thoughts that don't send me in a negative direction.
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I'm not sure how much this will help, but I find myself doing this a lot and the the thing that has most helped me is to follow up/respond to initial thoughts with a better version of them. So with envious thoughts like "I wish I looked like her," I come back (in my head to my own thought) with, "wow she is beautiful in her own way; I don't have to be beautiful in the same way she is." In the same manner, if I'm having a meaner thought thinking about someone negatively and associating myself with that, I try to respond to my initial thought with "she doesn't need to be [insert "positive" trait here] to be important and worthy and neither do I."
It's natural to look at other people and make comparisons both positive and negative; for me, it's just about responding with constructive thoughts that don't send me in a negative direction.
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