latinamuslim

Not everyone has kinks? If your girlfriend has sex with you, why is there a need to push for her to have kinks?

I don't crave much of anything except alone time. Sex is Sex and while it's amazing and enjoyable I don't give it more attention than other aspects of my life.

Maybe try having better vanilla sex? Is she having amazing orgasms? If not she might not think sex is that great. If you're not truly intimate meaning emotionally connected during sex it's no use looking for kinks. The baseline of pleasure isn't there

This is really bizarre and some people might even find it sexist, but you have to want to orgasm. I never used to orgasm from penetration.

Online sources just told me that it was because most women don't and that I needed to orgasm other ways.

I finally dated someone who I actually liked. He mentioned his ex always orgasmed from penetration. Competitive spirit kicked in.

I told myself that if she did it, I could too. Started having orgasms from penetrative sex alone. Experimented with mentally and emotionally opening up to my partner, built better and better orgasms over time. No kink, he didnt do anything out of the ordinary.

I just decided to mentally trust him. The relationship went very sour but I was glad I learned what I needed sexually.

I realized it was mostly a mental block. I didn't trust my other exes or have a good reciprocal relationship with them. Feeling loved and secure was the first step, then all I had to do was accept it. Instant orgasm.

What was so me of the training and knowledge you needed for this trip? How did you navigate? Did you have any special training before hand or did you learn it all before you went?

Intuition is dumb if it's not tempered by good rational and moral thought.