ladythanatos

Look up "radical acceptance." Check out Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. The Happiness Trap is a good book about ACT.

Edited to add: regarding boundaries, remember that boundaries are about honoring your own needs - which is not necessarily the same thing as whether someone else has done something intrinsically wrong. If I tell my friends, "Please don't call me on Thursday nights because that's 'me' time," that's a personal boundary. If one of my friends forgets about this and calls me, I can feel intruded upon without blaming my friend; I can feel my feelings while simultaneously understanding that it was an honest mistake. But if my friend does the same thing repeatedly despite reminders, the problem is not that it's inherently wrong to call me on a Thursday night... The problem is that she's not listening or respecting my request.

Who gets tutoring for a standardized test out of "intellectual curiosity"? Wouldn't that be more appropriate for getting help with an actual class or subject matter, rather than a standardized test?