No question really but maybe I can help clear up a few of your concerns with the familys side. My wife has a cavernous angioma in her brainstem and it leaks blood into her brain shocking it so that it swells up. She then gets a migraine until the swelling goes down. Her migraines can last anywhere from 5-6 hours to a couple days. On average she spends 2 days a week with a migraine all day long and 3-4 days a week with a 3-6 hour migraine.
I can tell you that I see her as the most heroic woman I've ever known. I have no clue how she manages to put up with them and still be the mother that she is. Know that your wife feels the same way about you, you're both amazing. She feels like she makes me do way more than I than should be doing to support the family but the truth is I generally don't mind. I actually feel like I could be doing more to help lighten the load. I know it helps her to (try to)relax and shes that much happier and sweeter on her good days. I want her to be able to focus on having fun with the kids and making the most of it.
The boys(10 and 7) know when she has her bad days as well, she's always in the bedroom with the lights off all covered up, and she turns the AC way up so its colder in the house. They like to help her take care of mom in the ways they can. The older one understands she can't get up and help out because she has a medical problem, but I don't think either of them quite 'get it' yet. Neither holds any resentment towards her whatsoever, nor feels sorry, or anything that she confides worrying about to me. She still won't believe it but its true. They love their momma no matter what because she's there for them so much on her good days. As long as you love them and make your memories they'll never stop seeing you as invincible. As far as I can tell its actually just another feather in your holy crap my mom/dad is awesome cap as far as they're concerned.
In the end I'd just say I hope you understand we never see you as a drain, or nuisance, or anything you may wonder about. We love you and can't wait for the good days to see your smile and hearing you laugh again.
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No question really but maybe I can help clear up a few of your concerns with the familys side. My wife has a cavernous angioma in her brainstem and it leaks blood into her brain shocking it so that it swells up. She then gets a migraine until the swelling goes down. Her migraines can last anywhere from 5-6 hours to a couple days. On average she spends 2 days a week with a migraine all day long and 3-4 days a week with a 3-6 hour migraine.
I can tell you that I see her as the most heroic woman I've ever known. I have no clue how she manages to put up with them and still be the mother that she is. Know that your wife feels the same way about you, you're both amazing. She feels like she makes me do way more than I than should be doing to support the family but the truth is I generally don't mind. I actually feel like I could be doing more to help lighten the load. I know it helps her to (try to)relax and shes that much happier and sweeter on her good days. I want her to be able to focus on having fun with the kids and making the most of it.
The boys(10 and 7) know when she has her bad days as well, she's always in the bedroom with the lights off all covered up, and she turns the AC way up so its colder in the house. They like to help her take care of mom in the ways they can. The older one understands she can't get up and help out because she has a medical problem, but I don't think either of them quite 'get it' yet. Neither holds any resentment towards her whatsoever, nor feels sorry, or anything that she confides worrying about to me. She still won't believe it but its true. They love their momma no matter what because she's there for them so much on her good days. As long as you love them and make your memories they'll never stop seeing you as invincible. As far as I can tell its actually just another feather in your holy crap my mom/dad is awesome cap as far as they're concerned.
In the end I'd just say I hope you understand we never see you as a drain, or nuisance, or anything you may wonder about. We love you and can't wait for the good days to see your smile and hearing you laugh again.
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