kaislynn

Emily Nagoski’s book, Come As You Are, has a really solid suggestion re not psyching yourself out. Release herself/yourself from the need to orgasm as the goal of sex; the goal is to do what feels good, not just to orgasm. There’s so much about sex that feels good whether or not you orgasm. The pressure to perform or reach that point often gets in the way of experiencing all the other great stuff. Plus, if you aren’t worried about getting there, sometimes you arrive anyway.

Thanks for responding: that’s a particularly eloquent way to put it, and it’s been my experience.