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I'm sorry for your diagnosis - cancer is shitty, and I hope you get better. Unfortunately, with any advanced cancer, it's worth asking:

Have you discussed end-of-life care options with your doctor and any important people who will be consulted during decisions (e.g. girlfriend, parents)? Also, have you made a will and filled out a health care proxy form?

If so, how was that experience? I was not prepared to do that stuff at age 23, and I'm curious what it was like.

If you haven't done it, I'd highly encourage it - it's awkward and painful to think about, but if you make your wishes known, you will save your loved ones a lot of trouble if you aren't lucky enough to survive. Even if you don't have much, it can simply be a comfort to people to know that they are acting according to your actual wishes, rather than what they believe your wishes are (especially if 2 important people believe different things about what you want). It can also bring you closer to people, as it can open the door for people to discuss their worries and hopes during a difficult time when they otherwise might not know that's ok.