Hey! Just saw this ama and I hope I'm not too late.
I experienced some harsh sexual abuse when I was younger and it has messed me up during my romantic life. I never really opened it up with anyone and am ashamed to talk about it. It has greatly affected how close and intimate I can get with a partner, because even when someone hugs or touches me I get great anxiety and I feel like I am "constricted". I rarely initiate any touch because it feels like I would be violating someone or harming them.
Not sure what i myself am trying to ask, but I guess: what is the best way to let a partner know that I want to be intimate but I have had a harsh past and it's tough for me to be comfortable while at the same time not freaking them out?
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Hey! Just saw this ama and I hope I'm not too late.
I experienced some harsh sexual abuse when I was younger and it has messed me up during my romantic life. I never really opened it up with anyone and am ashamed to talk about it. It has greatly affected how close and intimate I can get with a partner, because even when someone hugs or touches me I get great anxiety and I feel like I am "constricted". I rarely initiate any touch because it feels like I would be violating someone or harming them.
Not sure what i myself am trying to ask, but I guess: what is the best way to let a partner know that I want to be intimate but I have had a harsh past and it's tough for me to be comfortable while at the same time not freaking them out?
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