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jejcicodjntbyifid3297 karma

Absolutely no having sex with toilets 🚫🙅‍♂️

jejcicodjntbyifid383 karma

I truly don't know how you handle the pain man.I didn't imagine, even with the pain I feel right now. And the knowing that things are getting worse

I'm at a point in my mystery ass disease that new symptoms keep adding up, no answer, and no medication that works except steroids which you can't be on for long...I don't think I'm going to bear it much longer. I'm trying, but it's close. I'm in so much pain. But...I also feel shitty because like, I KNOW it can get worse. In fact, at the rate it's going at, it probably will. And I know that there are many who have it much worse than me...

Truthfully, since I was young I kinda figured I'd go out on my own terms. I've seen people wither from cancer and stuff and become a different person. I think there's fighting and then there's just calling it good enough. Enough of a fight made

I don't mean to minimize what you're going through or tear you down. Just kinda throwing out what I'm going through too

I'm inclined to think that living is just this monkey brain thing that wants us to keep going despite all logic. In my mind, eventually I've had to have animals put down, and so will I for myself. And I think that's okay. There is no right or wrong when it comes to the self. All the arguments against it just seem to be variations of "but it's wrong"

Trying another biologic, we'll see. Humira didn't do shit and now my ears and eyesight are being affected, and every joint in my body. I don't have any hope here. It just feels like it's another drug that won't help. And so far at every single turn shit has gotten worse. My own stupid body destroying itself.

So I'm just wondering... Does my rollercoaster keep going down? Or will it ever go back up again?

jejcicodjntbyifid331 karma

Which is ironic because if you're addicted to anything, your judgement can't be trusted!

jejcicodjntbyifid330 karma

Yep, exactly. I've had partners who were similar and could only do so by humping a pillow, etc

It adds complications to sex lives

Side note,

I have my own things, eg I have difficulty orgasming especially when receiving oral, something I'm trying to work on and make it easier

It sucks because as a man, there's a fine line between "can last a while and is great in bed", "can't last at all and is seen as pathetic by society", and "lasts so long it goes too far and now I can't finish"

I suspect most women have no idea how difficult this line is to walk and how much stress and shame it causes to us

jejcicodjntbyifid327 karma

It might be possible you've conditioned yourself to do so, even unknowingly

I'd advise trying to use less cloth stimulation over a long period of time, to try and condition yourself to get off without it

There are similar issues people have such as only being able to get off with humping a pillow, or having death grip syndrome on a penis

But people have shown that you can condition your brain to either get less or more sensitive, even orgasm hands free. Though it might be difficult because it could mean abstaining until you're very easily aroused. But it requires dedication, just like any mind body training. Just like working out, it doesn't happen in a week

Basically, we don't want to pigeon hole ourselves in only having one way we can get off, unless we want to be celibate or have more difficult sexual relationships