I live in Ottawa, Ontario, and we have similar clubs (which are also very private).
One of the points of conflict that arises is that the fetish/kink community and the swinging community are VERY different, yet often want to use these spaces for recreation. Things get dicey because the swingers sometimes don't understand fetish protocol (and think everyone is down for full-blown sex) and on the flip-side, kinksters want to be able to consensually hurt their partners, which swingers will find upsetting and ask them to stop. And then DRAMA. So my questions are:
1) Does the fetish community also host events in your club? And do you ever notice these kinds of "cultural" conflict?
2) Is your club equipped with stuff like paddles, rope, St. Andrew's Crosses, etc? Or is the backroom just things like bedding, normal furniture?
3) Living in Ottawa, I'm right near the Quebec (francophone) border, where more of the clubs are. This means we also get great anglo vs franco tension during events. Do you guys ever have to deal with people being prejudiced/racist/sexist, and does security get involved?
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I live in Ottawa, Ontario, and we have similar clubs (which are also very private).
One of the points of conflict that arises is that the fetish/kink community and the swinging community are VERY different, yet often want to use these spaces for recreation. Things get dicey because the swingers sometimes don't understand fetish protocol (and think everyone is down for full-blown sex) and on the flip-side, kinksters want to be able to consensually hurt their partners, which swingers will find upsetting and ask them to stop. And then DRAMA. So my questions are:
1) Does the fetish community also host events in your club? And do you ever notice these kinds of "cultural" conflict?
2) Is your club equipped with stuff like paddles, rope, St. Andrew's Crosses, etc? Or is the backroom just things like bedding, normal furniture?
3) Living in Ottawa, I'm right near the Quebec (francophone) border, where more of the clubs are. This means we also get great anglo vs franco tension during events. Do you guys ever have to deal with people being prejudiced/racist/sexist, and does security get involved?
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