iworkwitholdpeople

1. It usually different from each individual. My best way is usually playing along in what they are seeing or telling. Also talking them away from subjects that will anger them or anything like that helps. One of the women living here would always think the employees stole her items and get angry but just asking about her dog or her husband or something like and instead she would tell stories about her life and that would make her in a good mood.

2. Dementia is one of the worse things to deal with. Not only for the afflicted but also for those around. I don't know how far your relative is because it gets worse. But talking about things they know or memories always helps. Personally my grandma had alzheimers and she thought I were my dad. I totally understand how you must feel.

1. I do! Their favorite one is ''A blind mand walks into a bar... A table... And a chair''
2. There are! It is simple things like watching old photoalbums, sitting alone with them talking about their life asking about specifik details, also taking them out for walks.
3. Depends on the diesease. Worst cases are just them talking a lot about strange things or disjointed and don't remember very well.
4. Tough question. I have heard a lot of people saying they would kill themselves if they ended like that but to those who deals with it - everything is normal.
5. Most of them actually has really great humor! So they would mostly mess with me. A day I was really tired I laid my head on my hand and rested my elbow on the table. One of the men living there smacked my arm away from under my head so my head fell directly into the table. He then laughed like a evil genius.

One of the men living here always say some strange things. When he is in his bed he will tell me to remember to pad the dog when I leave and turn off the car aswell. Stuff like that. One day I had him out for a walk and we walked by a graveyard. He then tells me ''there is a german soldier graveyard in the back of it'' And I have lived here my whole life so I wasn't sure about this but he convinces me to go in and have a look. There actually was a german soldier graveyard hidden behind some trees. I was kinda shocked. But we left the graveyard and walked in a little neighborhood. He then yells into a garden where a guy was cutting grass ''Hey you ugly bastard''. The man comes over to us and im prepared to explain that he has dementia etc. Turns out the man he yelled at was an old work employee from like 40 years ago. He invited us to a cup of coffee and they talked about old times.

Just basic things like going for walks, ask them about their life or look at old photographs. Asking into details like ''what was your address'' or ''what did you do after school'' will always push them a little.

Hard to tell :D But there are usually moments that I will remember. I took one of them to the graveyard so they could visit her husband. She started crying and gave me a hug. We went for a long walk around a lake where she told stories about her husband and kids.

Oh wow. I am so sorry to hear that! It truly breaks my heart and I truly hope your family can cope with it. Some of the suggestions I have read like - the notes! which are really great idea. Not stressing yourself with a lot of work or thinking and staying in an environment where you feel safe for an example like home will help with the confusion. Don't think about being a burden to them because that will only make you sad. I can't tell when it is time to move to a home and doing it too late will only hurt all of you to deal with it cause at that time you surely wouldn't leave your family cause you probably won't know what is going on. If it helps most of the residence here remembers their loved ones and they visit a lot. I hope you and your family gets through it as painless as possible.