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I think the best is to simply offer information to him, and to repeat that offer from time to time. From the age of 12 onwards my mum always told me:" If you ever have a boyfriend, you just got to ask and we can go to the gynecologist together and get you the pill, ok? It's not a problem at all".

I still felt kind of embarrassed when I asked for it at the age of 15, but I was on the pill before I even had my first time, so it definitely worked to prevent teen pregnancy.

... To translate it to your case: simply say:" hey btw, remember what I told you at the beach? If you ever have questions about how stuff works or if something is normal, just tell me, it's really no problem.".

That way if he REALLY wants to know something or needs something (like condoms), he'll come to you.

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In 2010 it was things like "period blood is blue" or boys having arguments about how many holes a girl REALLY has, and asking what happens if you pee during sex. Essentially just very imaginative things.

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The most important thing is to make them understand exactly why it's bad. They are smart and responsible enough to not steal in shops or beat up other kids, so they should also be able to not look at porn if they know why it's bad. But if you just tell them "it's not good for you" it's like saying "eat your dinner before dessert chocolate isn't good for you". They think it's just something adults say.

Therefore I would definitely tell her how porn isn't like real life, that people can get addicted, that most stuff you see in porn isn't regular sex, and what can happen if the photos she sends are being spread in the Internet. Did you tell her that boys could be sending it to the entire school? Or that pedophiles could jerk off to it?

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An interesting side note is that viruses that are deadlier don't always end up killing more people. If a virus kills 70% of people, and they get horribly sick very fast, they are easy to identify and people have a lot of motivation to contain it (which is why MERS and SARS were stopped relatively fast). Severely sick or dead people also can't walk around spreading it. The original COVID strain was so bad because it had a long incubation period and many people were asymptomatic or only had cold-like symptoms, but then it still killed 1-2%.

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Germany, Austria, Switzerland, Sweden, Finnland, Norway, Iceland, France, Denmark, Czech Republic, Slovakia etc... are countries I know are definitely free for example

In the Netherlands you pay about 6000€/year for which you can have a 0% interest loan. The same for Belgium.

Otherwise no country is more expensive than the Netherlands fir student fees, except the UK, but they are screwed now anyways. They used to cost 10k/year