hbthegreat

I honestly wish I was able to vote for you as a Victorian. You are exactly the person I wish to be running my country and I put up the same arguments as yourself on a daily basis to anyone that will hear me down here. Thank you for having a voice. If I had any idea how to get into politics I would love to shout this message louder.

Hi!

I am certain my wife has one if not both of these disorders and is very high functioning so has never been properly assessed and also is very reluctant to want to be assessed so as not to "waste the doctors time".

I come from a family that has multiple people with ADHD including myself and I'm trying to find ways to support myself and my wife in getting general household tasks done as no matter how hard we both try to stay on top of things we fall very far behind which leads to more overwhelm, embarrassment and inaction. Doom piles all over the place, healthy food in the fridge always goes off because we have great intentions when purchasing the ingredients then completely forget to use them, dishes and clothes all over the place and don't even get started with the gardening as that is a nightmare.

We both over perform in our jobs at work which leads us to being mentally exhausted at the end of each day and putting tasks off even more.

Any tips for a married couple where both are struggling with this?

Thank you for these tips and ideas. Funnily enough we actually started trying to use todoist just before you recommended it and are currently filling it with tasks ahha. We will give this a go. I've traditionally been pretty bad at sticking to digital boards but willing to give it a trial if it works for us.

Schedule space for us is pretty difficult (running businesses / large teams) but that is a good tip for us to start thinking about as in the end if work isn't leading to a better life only better work then it's less useful to continue.