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hanikamiya36 karma

... I've read a story where a horse was a stallion and then a gelding, not via the veterinary procedure but via the author not being aware of the difference, and believing they had to avoid repetition at all cost.

hanikamiya13 karma

Have they checked for other issues? Medication and therapy did little for me before screening guidelines for thyroid conditions changed in my country, and I was found to have an underactive thyroid with labs that were within the old, but not the new range.

hanikamiya11 karma

I have an anecdote about this, I learnt to calm down in my anxiety inducing situations (rather than running away) when working with customer contact, and at first the 4.5 hour part time shifts weren't long enough, at some point when I'd realized I managed everything despite being anxious I calmed down most of the days, and then sooner and sooner. Now I think I'm down to a relatively normal time span needed to calm down in familiar situations, though it still takes a while in new situations.

So, work helped (because I had to go back the next day), while the baby steps exposure my therapists advocated actually made it worse, because I'd move out of the situation while at the height of my anxiety, and then the logical interpretation is that the situation was dangerous-dangerous, glad I survived, very dangerous be anxious next time too!

hanikamiya10 karma

I'm none of them, but I'm studying engineering in Germany, a country that doesn't have entrance exams for engineering classes. Our only qualification needed to enroll is our high school diploma.
That doesn't mean the classes are any easier, we have to put in the work and pass our exams like students anywhere else in the world.
Now, in my own first year the institute for engineering mechanics got the psychology department to help them look at their teaching schedule, because they'd overhauled it the year before, put a lot of it online, and got outrageous fail rates because students had just copied the answers for their assignments instead of doing them themselves. So our group was given aptitude tests at the start of the year and at the end of the first semester (mathematical and visual-spatial ability) as well as questionnaires on those two occasions and at the start of the second semester. They took those results plus the results of the two engineering mechanics exams we took in that year, and analyzed that data. I haven't seen the full results, but we were given an overview of the most interesting findings.
In my speciality, civil engineering, there are about 30% girls enrolled. One of the findings was that we consistently evaluated out own performance lower than the guys, but that our averages were better than those of the guys. That shows again that in my culture, young men tend to evaluate their performance and aptitude better than young women (something that is has been shown in other research before.)

A consequence of this self-evaluation is that people who overestimate their performance are likely to just continue as planned and put in more work when they experience a failure, while people who underestimate their performance may either put in more work than needed, just to be sure - or give up after experiencing a failure. I would assume that we probably had equal results for the 30% women and the roughly 30% of men who had better grades, and there were 40% of male students with lower grades who trusted themselves to be able to earn this degree, while girls with the same aptitude didn't even try.

Another interesting finding was that low marks in highschool maths and physics were no predictor of failure. There weren't many of those students, but a couple who'd had failing marks in these subjects in high school but who passed our exams. Their questionnaires showed that they were highly self-motivated and put in more work than those who'd thought it would be easy for them. I can't speak for other fields, but while you need some basic aptitude in engineering, you mainly need to put in enough work. Now, you might not become a new Tesla without both exceptional talent and exceptional hard work, but in my country alone, there's roughly 880k people working in some kind of engineering job. Most of them won't be comparable to the big names either, but they still do solid, reliable work.
You would of course have to look at how this pans out in your culture, but if there are simply fewer female candidates taking the entrance exams because they underestimate their chances of passing, lowering admission scores for them a bit probably wouldn't have a negative impact. Plus, it might be that they're more likely to put in the effort to get good grades once they are enrolled.

hanikamiya5 karma

That is so cute! I can feel the embarrassment you must've felt, but honestly, it's not like you were dissing him. It's heart-warming when thinking of all the stories where people pwn somebody who is trash-talking behind their back in another language.