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For me, knowing my abuser had BPD, and spending time in bpdlovedones made ALL the difference in my recovery. This is not to say all people with BPD are abusive, but when they are, it's a specific type of abuse which often makes you question your own sanity. I didn't find general abuse forums nearly as helpful as bpdlovedones, and I wouldn't have healed as fast as I did without it.

I do agree that there's a lot of generalisation, and a lot of anger towards pwBPD, so I would recommend any non-abusive pwBPD to stay well away, as a lot of it may be hurtful to read. But it's a safe space for survivors, and anger is a part of the healing process.

You could very well be codependent and have weak boundaries, that's something I'd look into if I were you.

Can you get an erection and ejaculate when youre in a coma?

It must be really, really difficult to be raised by an abusive parent with BPD (I suspect my dad had it, but he didn't raise me), and then to suffer with BPD yourself on top of that. I hope you are doing ok!

Thank you for thanking me. I believe people should be measured by their behaviour, and not their disorder. I have a lot of empathy for the non-abusive BPD traits - having had C-PTSD from childhood into my late 20s, I can definitely empathise with what it feels like to have no "emotional skin" and be constantly overwhelmed by your own feelings and fear of abandonment.

I agree that wallowing in victimhood is unhealthy! Anger and blame were definitely part of the healing process for me, but eventually I had to set that aside and take a look at myself and how I attracted such a situation into my life (yay codependency!!!)