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I think it's also worth mentioning that a person who disclosed they had herpes is showing a lot of respect for you whilst also making themselves vulnerable, and you should show the same in return.

and are you aware that in most states it is illegal(Genital Herpes, not Oral Herpes) to fail to tell your sexual partner that you have it?

From a cursory search online, I don't think this is true. There are laws in California and Florida about HIV disclosure, but I can't find anything about herpes. I think you can get sued, though.

It is a terrible thing to do to someone, not to disclose, though. Really selfish.

Hitting on 18 year old gals as a 45 year old is creepy.

If it's less stigmatized, people might be more willing to tell partners about it. So that's one thing.

That wasn't a yes/no question. You must choose.