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gible_bites93 karma

I’m a woman in her 30s who has experimented with masturbation since I was 11. Nothing I’ve tried has felt better than the feeling of “huh, this feels nice enough I guess”. There’s no plateau, there’s no buildup, there’s no release. Just an okay feeling until I go numb. Sex is pretty much the same thing, and it’s discouraging to me when I read that sex won’t feel great until one can get themselves off alone.

I feel broken, lost, and alone at this point. I’ve never been sexually abuse, wasn’t raised to be ashamed of sex, have a loving long term boyfriend, and have tried toys. Is there any hope for me, or is sexual pleasure some huge joke the universe is playing on me? How do I unlock the secrets to masturbation?

gible_bites54 karma

I’m a cis woman who feels zero “pleasure” from PIV or oral sex. I’ve been sexually active for over a decade with several partners. I’m not on any medication at the moment. I was raised to be sex positive in a non-religious home. I was never abused. I WANT to have fun sex. I love my boyfriend dearly and I’m absolutely sexually attracted to him.

Is there hope for me? Is there something I’m missing? I feel like the media portraying sex as a pleasurable act is one big joke on me.

gible_bites42 karma

How dare you disrespect Sora like that.

gible_bites28 karma

I have not and appreciate the link. Unfortunately for me, no part of the experience is particularly pleasurable no matter how much I wish it would be. I watch female empowered porn, I read a lot of smut. I lower my expectations. It’s not as if it all feels wild and great but I can’t reach the point of orgasm...it just never gets anywhere near that point.

I fucking hate myself and the fact that my body has betrayed me of the experience of basic sexual pleasure.

gible_bites24 karma

I’ve tried vibrators (I currently have a Womanizer 2 knock-off that doesn’t do much for me) but not a Magic Wand. I’ll try and give it a shot but it’s so discouraging wasting money on sex toys!

I wouldn’t even mind PIV being ineffective but the lack of clitoral pleasure is what makes me feel inhuman. I don’t even care that I’ve been unable to orgasm in the 17 years I’ve been experimenting with masturbation; I just want to experience some sort of sexual pleasure with my boyfriend.