funnybillypro

Oh god, good question. My Bumble bio says, "I do a sex podcast. Less of a brag, more of a disclaimer."

The podcast provides both advantages and disadvantages for meeting women. On the one hand, it definitely prevents certain people from dating a guy who will talk about it on the internet. Though that's true for a lot of creators and artists—Taylor Swift is the best example!

But it also allows me to filter out women who would never be a fit for me. I'm nonmonogamous. I'm sex-positive (and need to date someone who is, too). I like raunchy humor. Having that out there has saved me (and another person) from a lot of first dates that would have gone nowhere.

Also, it definitely attracts people either in my DMs or who think it's awesome that I'm open sexually. When you're honest about who you are, you'll find a lot more people will be honest to you about who they are.

Look, a lot of people make mistakes. Sometimes that mistake is sleeping with me.

The episode I put out 2 weeks ago with my ex-girlfriend was the most difficult episode I've ever produced—emotionally. They reached out to me out of the blue (they use they/them pronouns) and asked to do the show to promote a project of theirs. So I was nervous for a few weeks leading up to it. Then doing it left me in tears when they closed the door to leave. And then it must have taken me four different attempts to sit down and listen to it (i usually only need to listen once).

This show, for me, is the definition of emotional labor. It's not always a rosey picture. It's not always fun sex stories. Sometimes it really feels like I'm tearing myself open and exposing the bad AND the good.

Honestly, it may be a little bit before I reach out to an emotionally significant ex-partner because of how difficult that was.

Why would I be out of a job? I'd still be talking about sex, dating, and love with a lot of kickass people. There're still fun stories to reminisce upon and lessons to learn from past partners. Two romantic relationships have started and ended during the podcast.

I've been asked this question a lot but I never thought, "Oh, if I get a girlfriend it's all over." I guess people think my girlfriend wouldn't want me to talk to my exes. But I would never wanna date someone who was intimidated by that.

I had this problem where women would sleep with me, but they wouldn't date me. Granted, I was only 24 when I started the podcast, but for five straight years whenever I wanted to 'get serious,' the woman always told me she wanted to 'keep it casual.' I always thought it was a weird gender role reversal I was stuck in (i've since learned i'm far from the only straight guy who's experienced this).

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I went on two electric holy-shit-we-both-think-this-is-crazy dates with this one woman, we'll her S. Finally someone not afraid of dating, attractive, funny (i love funny women), and someone who acknowledged that the connection was as strong as I thought it was. I told my therapist about S and said, "If this one doesn't work out, I'll do that fucking podcast I've alluded to a lot."

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Two weeks later, she went upstate for Thanksgiving and ran into her ex-boyfriend. I got a call saying they're going to try to make it work again. In therapy, I tell my shrink and her first words were, "So you're going to do that podcast?"

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Fuck. And here I am 5 years later!