fountaindiving

I am a confident, friendly girl who can talk about anything to anyone for hours - unless it's a guy that I find attractive. I lose the plot and come off looking like a total airhead or weirdo. I have been single for 5 years, I have been on a few dates (some 2nd or 3rd) dates too but they always seem to fizzle out and the guy will say he's not looking for anything serious or long term (although I don't even mention it) I feel like I come across as desperate, even though I'm not. I've tried online dating with no success and I have given up on dating all together. How do I meet someone right for me? And how do I not screw it up?

I'm in Melbourne, Australia. Big city!

Do you think it's a numbers game? Like, I just don't go in enough dates? I feel like people I know in relationships just fell into them somehow with little to no effort, they just met someone and it instantly snowballed into something deeper. I feel like I'm never going to experience that connection with someone.

I have met one at a concert, another through friends, and a couple of online dates. I'm 26 years old and I'm not comfortable sending a photo but I am slim with long brown hair, have been told I am pretty. No problem finding a guy who wants to sleep with me, it's finding one who wants to get to know me that's the problem. I'm usually nervous right before the date and sometimes during, I feel like I have to be "on" and can't relax and I end up asking too many questions and it ends up like a job interview. I don't like playing games but I wait a few days, generally wait until they text first, don't double text etc... But it just always fizzles out somehow. I hate talking on the phone or I would call. Generally if they realize I'm not up for sleeping together immediately they say they were just looking for fun, I appreciate the honesty definitely but I can't really continue after that. I cant seem to get past a few days to the point where you really get to know eachother and hang out and enjoy eachother. I know I'm being too general, I apologise!