How do we process grief when there’s so much else that always needs done?
For example, my great aunt passed in early 2019. She was my closest family member but I barely had time to cry when I found out because I was solely tasked with her funeral arrangements and cleaning out her house. By the time that was taken care of, I felt like my allotted grief time had passed and no one was sympathetic or would put up with me needing to take a personal day weeks after the fact.
Then I became engaged later that same year and in December my fiancé—out of nowhere—ended it. Absolutely taken aback but, again, didn’t have time to grieve because I was busy finding a new place to live and moving and then COVID hit.
So I’ve had two major deaths—one physical, one emotional—and I feel like I’ve almost become numb to it because life has to move on so quickly without any resolution. It seems like we are so inundated with loss and death that the solution is just to “suck it up” and move on since everyone is sad and depressed lately.
flyonthewindshield303 karma
How do we process grief when there’s so much else that always needs done? For example, my great aunt passed in early 2019. She was my closest family member but I barely had time to cry when I found out because I was solely tasked with her funeral arrangements and cleaning out her house. By the time that was taken care of, I felt like my allotted grief time had passed and no one was sympathetic or would put up with me needing to take a personal day weeks after the fact. Then I became engaged later that same year and in December my fiancé—out of nowhere—ended it. Absolutely taken aback but, again, didn’t have time to grieve because I was busy finding a new place to live and moving and then COVID hit. So I’ve had two major deaths—one physical, one emotional—and I feel like I’ve almost become numb to it because life has to move on so quickly without any resolution. It seems like we are so inundated with loss and death that the solution is just to “suck it up” and move on since everyone is sad and depressed lately.
View HistoryShare Link