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So I think I have ADHD but I wasn't diagnosed as a child, partly because I'm just old enough that diagnoses weren't super common and partly because I was always "gifted" and was able to coast through most of school so nobody really thought to mention it as a possible issue I guess. It never occurred to me that I might have it until relatively recently when I watched a YouTube video and said "hey, a lot of this stuff sounds like me."

I think I cope pretty well. Like, I have a job and a kid and a house and manage to adult successfully for the most part but I also know I have trouble focusing and sometimes I get sucked into weird things for hours and I fidget constantly, which drives my wife crazy. So, like, I don't know if I have ADHD for sure because watching a YouTube video isn't really a diagnosis and even if I do I don't know if it's worth talking to someone. Would they prescribe me medication? Is it even worth doing? I've managed this far, after all. And even if I do have ADHD I don't know if my doctor would even take me seriously because, yeah, I've made it this far.

I don't really know what my question is. I think I'm mostly just getting some of this off my chest because it's been bugging me. I guess, do you have any advice for me, or for anyone else like me who might read this?

Thank you for this. I think part of what I'm looking for here is just a little affirmation. I told my wife that I think I might have ADHD and she was, uh, not supportive. So I've been kind of worried about it and afraid that I do but also kind of afraid that I don't and I'm just not very good at, like, life. I've been going down the YouTube rabbit hole since I put my daughter to bed an hour and a half ago (and only just realized it had been that long when I looked at the clock) and a lot of it is resonating with me. Especially Brett Thornhills interview because the guy he was talking about is basically me in a few years. But there's still this part of me that says no, I'm just latching onto this because it excuses all my shitty inability to ever follow through or do the things I'm supposed to be doing. And another part of me that's like "you just watched ninety minutes of this girl who does have it and takes medication and everything talk about how she still struggles with all of this stuff so getting diagnosed is pointless anyway".

But I've decided I'm going to talk to a therapist and go from there. And I told my wife that and she didn't seem super thrilled but also just kind of said I could do it if I wanted to. So that's something I guess?

Also I realized after my last post that it was in fact your YouTube video that made me start wondering if I have it in the first place. So cheers.