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dragonfliesloveme43 karma

So at the end of the documentary, where it shows Bob lying on the bed with his eyes closed after he had taken the meds and the camera pans to the angel pictures, then out the window...how long after he had taken the meds was that? Do you know if he was “sleeping” (in the process of dying) or was he actually deceased at that point?

dragonfliesloveme30 karma

So you mean boys can't get it from you, because you are male? You got it from your mom, so females can pass it to both sexes, but males can only pass it to females?

dragonfliesloveme18 karma

Is that in-between time like being in a coma such that the person can still hear what is going on around them?

dragonfliesloveme15 karma

Great movie! I've seen it a few times, and you're right, it is always funny, doesn't get old.

dragonfliesloveme8 karma

Imagine the look of love in a loved one's eyes, even your dog who has passed. Usually people imagine their mothers eyes or the eyes of their S.O. When you "see" their eyes, there is some kind of release in the brain that shuts down the stress hormones from the amygdalae. If too many of these stress hormones are released, then it can ramp up to a panic attack, but the feeling of love, safety, and connection with a loved one can overcome that. The amygdalae will slow down or shut down the release of stress hormones while you are feeling the warmth, love, and safety of your loved one.

In the book "Soar", the author says it is best to visualize (as opposed to looking at a picture, which doesn't quite capture the look of love) the person or animal that loves you and lets you feel safe, but I have found while flying that if I scroll through pics on my phone or iPad while flying and see pics of my cats or my husband, it focuses me and makes me feel warm and happy. It really helps.

The guy that wrote the book (who is both a pilot as well as a therapist) also says that alcohol will stop the stress hormones. He says this is not the goal of course, you want to be able to control it yourself, but if you need a little help, have a drink and it will help.

As far as visualizing your loved one who also loves you, he says to go ahead and make that association before you ever get on the plane...see their face and eyes when you imagine getting on the plane, seeing the back of the seat in front of you, etc., even when you imagine driving to the airport. Try to make your brain associate the plane and the flight with feelings of warmth and safety and love, the feelings that those eyes give you, such that when you get on the plane, your brain sees the back of the seat in front of you and makes the connection to feelings of safety from your loved one. When you are in the plane, continue to evoke that image to mitigate the stress.

He also does talk about the 5-4-3-2-1 method in the book, as I see another commenter has mentioned that technique already. One time I bought an architectural magazine to take with me, because the pictures are loaded with colors and imagery, so I used it to count things and focus on while flying.