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Hello sister, I also have a terminal cancer diagnosis. It sounds like you've found a lovely place within all this.
I have also found that the more I turn towards death instead of away from it, the more I open up inside.

Do you have any books that have especially helped? My favorites have been "Advice for future corpses, and those who love them" by Sally Tisdale, and books by Cautlin Doughty. Love to you.

I've had it for over 4 years. My favorite thing is when people say "how are you?", and "what do you need?".

"Let me know if you need anything" is useless. I've been needing thing for years and I'm tired of asking. (People in my metastatic cancer support group say the same.) Contact me and ask me the two things above. Bonus for asking, "What can I do for you right now?". Often being asked that is as good as good or better than someone actually doing something, because it shows you're invested in supporting me.

Thanks for writing this, I've found it to be pretty eye-opening along with finding some very useful advice for dealing with children/teens/emotionally underdeveloped coworkers and other people sharing the human condition.

I learned about genograms recently from a friend, they sound incredibly useful. They used them to examine their family of origin dynamic and prepare for counselling as clergy. I've been meaning to look into them further to examine my own.

Yes, I was on FOLFIRI and it would have been rough being there alone, and dangerous to drive home. Now I'm on maintenance and I don't mind going by myself, it's pretty routine, plus my next treatment is #67.