I’ve recently learned that my father has shifted blame from my mom to me in regards to her infidelity when I was 10. He’s former navy and since I have adhd/independent/gonna ask why personality, he told multiple family members I wasn’t his and the his care of me versus my sibling who is a people pleaser was vastly different.
New mom of a now 1yr old. I’m hyper aware of how much not feeling loved can damage a child. But how do I keep from damaging my own child with my trauma? I’m a glass half empty kind of person and the few attempts I’ve had at therapy have not gone well. Does talking about this regularly with my partner in a safe space help? Or is that just banging the problem over and over? We’ve also gone no contact with my parents and sibling despite it not being what I ultimately want but I can’t force them to have a positive relationship either.
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I’ve recently learned that my father has shifted blame from my mom to me in regards to her infidelity when I was 10. He’s former navy and since I have adhd/independent/gonna ask why personality, he told multiple family members I wasn’t his and the his care of me versus my sibling who is a people pleaser was vastly different.
New mom of a now 1yr old. I’m hyper aware of how much not feeling loved can damage a child. But how do I keep from damaging my own child with my trauma? I’m a glass half empty kind of person and the few attempts I’ve had at therapy have not gone well. Does talking about this regularly with my partner in a safe space help? Or is that just banging the problem over and over? We’ve also gone no contact with my parents and sibling despite it not being what I ultimately want but I can’t force them to have a positive relationship either.
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