cinemashow

I have a 25 year old son. After divorce from his mom he’s been anywhere from distant and hostile to loving and caring. The loving and caring times seem to coincide with his need for money. I’ll admit that the divorce was caused by my misbehavior. Years have gone by since then. It’s hard to communicate with him as he’s moved cross country. How do I maintain my relationship with him yet urge him into self sufficiency and getting into a career position that will provide for him ?

Thank you. Am I helping or hurting him by giving him money when he runs short in a month ?