chad_

So, can it be both crispy and chewy?

My kids' mom (and my ex wife) carries a BPD diagnosis (as well as DID). When we met she was seeing a therapist and doing EMDR and other treatments, and seemed to really have things together. Over the years, we had a number of really stressful situations arise and in the midst of it, she stopped pursuing treatment. Our relationship degraded, and she started having affairs, and when I asked for a divorce she destroyed my life (filed false charges, destroyed my work computer, spread nasty lies, got a restraining order against me that kept me from even talking to my kids for 16 months, destroyed my credit, friendships etc)... Now I am trying to be a parent to my kids but she denies having any issues to overcome. At this very moment I am sitting with my kids because she is driving 10 hours to stir drama with a guy she broke up with (not exaggerating...)

allll that aside.... My question is, how can someone who HAS to be involved with a person (who hates them) with BPD do anything to help them back towards treatment? I am SO worried about my kids, particularly my daughter, as she has already been displaying a concerning lack of empathy, and very erratic friendships.

edit: just to clarify.. I don't hate her. She hates me. I feel sad about her and worry for my kids. I realized that growing apart triggered her abandonment issues, but at this point it is almost 5 years past and she is still trying to argue about it

In a red shirt..

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What about taking on a protégé basically? Maybe during your intake process, you could ask new clients if they would be open to your colleague shadowing you for their session for quality/training purposes? Maybe over time they could get a feel for the approach, and respond to customers collaboratively with you?