butch81385

I agree. It can be very difficult to maintain your own well being when so much is focused on the other person. Make sure you can handle that. It is harder than it seems.

Very fair description of our city. The road layout is horrendous (it's the only city I know of where you might ask a local how to get somewhere and they reply "oh, you can't get there from here". it's not them being rude, it's just that it is a 30 minute trip to go a couple of miles with lots of crazy, hard to explain turns, with tunnels and bridges thrown in between... )

Our public transportation is also crap. But I love this city (having traveled to plenty of cities around the world). Big city amenities with a small town neighborhood feel.

If you ever make it back to Pittsburgh, let me know I will get a couple of good beers.

I recommend spending less on your wedding if you can! No one will remember what the food was. No one will remember what the DJ was. No one will remember how good the cake tasted....

My wife and I were able to do a 120 person wedding, reception, honeymoon and our wedding bands (hers with plenty of diamonds) for about $11,000. We could have done it much cheaper too, but that was the money we had set aside to spend. Instead of paying for a DJ, we signed up for a free Spotify trial and made our own playlist, and used a speaker system from a friend. In Pittsburgh there is a tradition of a cookie table (family members all make cookies), so we only got a tiny cake and put it on the cookie table (and even then the cake still didn't all get eaten). We had friends offer for us to use their champagne flutes or cake cutting utensils since we had no desire to buy them and have them sit in a closet for the rest of our lives. For our honeymoon we flew to Miami and took two back to back cruises in the Caribbean.

In other words, don't make yourself poor over a party. Throw the party that you want and save the rest of the money for other things (like a honeymoon, house downpayment, etc.).

Pittsburgh stairs are weird... We have some that are merely sidewalks to very steep streets, like on Canton Ave: http://www.frontiernet.net/~rochballparks2/towns/08_pgh_canton2.jpg

We have others that are "streets" themselves. They show up on maps, but there is no road, only stairs! Like, take Ceaser way, which is stairs (http://www.frontiernet.net/~rochballparks5/pittsburgh/08_pgh_st_caesar.jpg) which intersects with Eleanor St., which is stairs at that location (https://www.google.com/maps/place/Caesar+Way,+Pittsburgh,+PA+15203/@40.422707,-79.9724113,19z/data=!4m2!3m1!1s0x8834f172c48b7345:0x31cfda3b081db30c). Luckily newer maps are differentiating between stair streets and real streets, but earlier GPS units would often tell you to turn onto a set of stairs!

Not the OP, but as someone else who thought of the same question I know it came out of curiosity and not judgement for me. I guess I personally have never experienced the "I relate to this gender" feeling in this way. Like, to me, I was born a guy. I like girls. There wasn't much else to it. Some things I do are more "masculine" such as sports. Some are more "feminine" (theater, sewing). But I never felt that I didn't belong. But I never felt that I did belong. It just always was, just a truth for me. I find it fascinating how other people experience life, as we all head around the sun on the same planet but in very different ways....