boo_baup

Thanks for coming here to answer questions. This should be a really interesting thread. Here's a question I've been considering:

I get the idea that all consensual sexual activity is okay. Do what you want as long as your sexual partner is into it too.

But I often question this. For example, I am drawn to sexually dominating women. While I understand this can be fine if my partner likes that, I can't help but feel that I am indulging in social inherited views of women that are sexist, and that by doing so I am being untrue to what I believe in and potentially perperuating sexism by finding a way to justify gratifing these socially inherited desires.

So I guess it's a three part question:

1) What are the chances that wanting to sexually dominate women just happens to organically be my kink despite thousands of years of sexist precident? It seems unlikely.

2) If this is in fact resulting from socially inherited sexism, can finding a safe and consential way to indulge in this desire, rather than than rejecting it, perpetuate sexism? Like practically could this be bad for "the cause"?

3) Shouldn't we stand up to things we fundamentally disagree with, even when those things reside inside of us? Desires are embedded in us without our consent, and I am not sure if I should give into such things.

A simillar situation could be engaging in sexual behavior that objectifies black men in a manner rooted in our history of slavery, or fetishizing foreign women in a manner rooted in colonialism.

The same can be done with a child.

Is there any data to support this?

I think you're asking too much of blog posts. Given you live in the cheapest rent you can find, don't excessively spend, and still only make minimum payments, your problem is you have to make more money. A blog post on student loans can't help you with that.

A snow globe eye would be amazing! Shake your head a bit and it starts snowing!