I feel for you. My husband had a one night stand when he was 15 and didn't know the girl got pregnant. She didn't contact him until ten years later when she sued him for current support plus ten years of back support, and won. He was making $17,000 a year at the time and they started taking $800 a month from him. We moved to the state where the kid lived so that my husband could start a relationship with him, but the mother said "These visits aren't convenient for me" and then started rescheduling visits, cancelling them. We just gave up after a while but my husband is still paying back support (the kid is now 18) while the mother and her husband own a house, 2 nice cars, etc and we live in a trailer, struggling to get by.
I never asked my ex for support for my kids. My husband fully supported my kids along with paying support for this other kid. He has been threatened with "further action" during times when he was late. As the wife of someone paying support, it is so scary.
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I feel for you. My husband had a one night stand when he was 15 and didn't know the girl got pregnant. She didn't contact him until ten years later when she sued him for current support plus ten years of back support, and won. He was making $17,000 a year at the time and they started taking $800 a month from him. We moved to the state where the kid lived so that my husband could start a relationship with him, but the mother said "These visits aren't convenient for me" and then started rescheduling visits, cancelling them. We just gave up after a while but my husband is still paying back support (the kid is now 18) while the mother and her husband own a house, 2 nice cars, etc and we live in a trailer, struggling to get by. I never asked my ex for support for my kids. My husband fully supported my kids along with paying support for this other kid. He has been threatened with "further action" during times when he was late. As the wife of someone paying support, it is so scary.
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