blake_wilson

Hi /u/janeetcetc, I am that boyfriend. The line that clearly stated I do more of the day to day childcare was a misunderstanding/ miscommunication between us and Susan. We've been trying to get a correction issued online but seems the Times can't really prioritize it at this point. Last summer I worked less because the toddler wasn't in daycare, but now the child care is equitable. I do do most of the cooking but that's just because I enjoy and am good at it. With more adults in a household you can afford to be more specific about the division of labor.

As for legal issues? I'd be naive to ignore that I'm not more legally vulnerable. I'm a renter in their house, I have no legal rights as a father, but it's a tradeoff I accept to be a part of something I believe in. And the trust and communication level this situation dictates means we've discussed all of these things. We've talked about what happens if we break up, or if circumstances dictate that I'd have to move out. Both bio parents agree her life is better with me in it, and none of us think a romantic relationship is necessary for co-parenting. There are no guarantees in life, even in marriage, even in the law, so it's a leap of faith we're all willing to make.