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My middle daughter is named after you!

When my wife and I were discussing names I threw out Alyssa...(because I was thinking about beautiful strong women)...and yours is the one she agreed upon.

In bed about a year after she was born, while discussing out current "top 5's" I mentioned you and she looked over at me and said, "wait a minute...did we name our daughter after Alyssa Milano?"

I just smiled.

I surely will thank you!

Have you come across a photo that struck you in such a way that you had a hard time getting the image off of your mind?

For me it was the photo “Shanghai Baby” by H.S. Wong that ran in Time magazine in 1937.

As a teenager many years ago just getting interested in photography I remember coming across that photo in a book and having the image burned into my memory.

Has a photo ever had an effect like that on you? If so which one?

Hello, first off I would just thank you for making time to answer these questions. Even for people who may be embarrassed to hesitant to ask about their own experiences, hearing an answer to an issue that may be similar could be hugely beneficial to them. I think it’s great that you give your time for something like this.

My question:

As a very young child I have small fragments and bits and pieces of very disturbing memories that may have resulted from abuse I experienced but do not remember. I am reluctant to write these off as fantasies or dreams because what happens in them do not seem to be fantasies a child of that age would engage in.

Being as vague as possible...I have fragments of memories of a grown female family member allowing me (a male) to explore and touch her naked body asking me repeatedly “do you like that?” And there are also bits and pieces of more then one male family member exposing themselves to me.

My question is there a way to recover these possibly repressed memories? My fear is these memories were the most benign part of these experiences and things far worse were done to me that I have no recollection of. Even worse then that...I am afraid these may just be a result of an overactive imagination and these people are completely innocent and I have carried these strange “memories” since childhood for no reason.

There is a history of at least one of the people mentioned above being arrested and jailed for child molestation. It is very likely I was a victim too.

My confusion with these memories is that in them, I don’t feel frightened or upset. That’s why I feel I may have blurred a line into fantasy...because in these small foggy recollections, I don’t feel taken advantage of almost like I was okay with what was going on.

Is there a way to tell these memories apart from actual events or something concocted in my imagination?

Thank you I may look into that.

I appreciate your response.