barbsteele

I've read through this IAmA and only noticed one comment calling you out on the possibly unethical side of your job. I commented on the female PI thread, basically stating that SHE is not the problem and should not feel bad about what she does. She is not the cause of the split, fight, divorce, whatever. She does not secretly hope to destroy relationships; she's hired to ease someones mind essentially, for better or worse. I got a million messages from people say "but but but". Just thought it was interesting that this thread has wayyy less hate; unless its coming!

There are obviously people here down voting the heck out of you because they see YOU as the reason a break up may happen. It has nothing to do with her at ALL people. The wives who hire her are the ones with suspicions. Yes, they should be communicating with their husbands but there are likely hundreds of husbands who LIE. Perhaps the wife is almost certain that she is being cheated on but has no proof. She thinks she is being lied to but does not want to separate based on that alone. Hiring this lady should be a last resort (though I'm sure there are plenty that go crazy and hire her without just cause). It cannot be easy coming to this decision, it would be heart breaking. Should the wife just stay unhappy and suspicious, and possibly waste the rest of her life in this state? Also, I'm sure OP does not hound these men-she said that when turned down, she is happy inside and leaves it be. She does not force them to cheat, thats impossible. She simply flirts and sees if the man would be willing to engage with her sexually-if he agrees, he is obviously not devoted to his wife only and this LIKELY is not the first time he has acted this way. If a man will not cheat on his wife, HE WON'T; OP is not a brain washing harpy, devoted on ending marriages! If you say, "how do you sleep at night, knowing you may be ending a marriage" you are looking at this all wrong, especially knowing she is just flirting. What about prostitutes whose cliente may be mainly married men? Many could not care less. I have read many sex worker IAMA's and those women do not get downvoted to oblivion...