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As long as everything is safe, sane , consensual and not having a negative impact on your life ,have at it :)

xoxoCC

the simplest answer is that a sexologist is anyone who studies sex. So if you have ever researched how an orgasm works, how some fetishes are developed, or anything like that you would have participated in sexology. Sexology as a profession can take many roles depending on background and education. Some might be academic researchers, some might work with couples to help them enhance their sex life and others may work on creating adult toys

There can be many reasons for why you are experiencing this. I might need some more information as it could be behavioral, psychological or probably a bit of both. When you are masturbating are you watching porn, or fantasizing about something? Do you notice that you tense your body up right before you come, or is there something in particular that you do while masturbating that gets the orgasm (pinching nipples, fondling balls, etc) . Do you masturbate with or without lube or use any toys/sleeves ? Also, has your wife noticed? Are you able to lose yourself in sex with her, or is not being able to orgasm in the back of your mind the whole time?

not a dumb question at all! You're referring to a "Sexual Surrogate" who usually works alongside a therapist by actually having sex with the client to address certain concerns. I personally don't work with one, but yes it's an actual thing lol Type in sexual surrogate and your city on google and you might find one :) thanks for the question xoxoCC

Lexapro and other antidepressants can often times cause problems in the bedroom unfortunately. Sometimes people's bodies adapt, and sometimes they dont. But since you do orgasm on your own, I dont think it's as simple as it only being the lexapro. If you haven't already , have a discussion with your wife about situation. Be really open and honest with your concerns and what you have been experiencing. Having her on your team can help when combating this ejaculatory incompetence. You might need to spice things up in the bedroom with her in order for you to get lost in t he pleasure of sex. Talking with her about it and seeing what you can work out can also be fun and adventurous. You can watch porn together and get ideas, you can show her how you masturbate while she masturbates or try other things like role play to get you out of your regular mind set. The main thing you want to do it try to enjoy sex again and let yourself get so lost in the moment you might even cum early lol I would also work with a therapist to try and sort out the anxiety related to it and develop some coping skills. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy might be a good choice in dealing with that anxiety. Tons of luck to you and if you ever need any more guidance or resources feel free to send me a private message