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Mr Banderas, how does it feel knowing you went from being Zorro to baking cookies and bread while talking to a chicken who is being ignored by the rooster she love?

Reference for those who don't get it.

Screw the arm!

You look hella cute in the dress, do you put it on often?

I am sent pictures of empty egg cartons

I had no idea what the hell this could've been for but when you explained it in the next part of your post, goddamn, that's fucking awful.

I am expecting my first kid in a few weeks, in a pregnancy that has so far -- knock on wood -- been free of any complications)

Congratulations! Having a kid one day is one of my dreams, I hope to be a decent parent, I try to open my mind to new things for that, it's one of the hardest and most important things a person can do in their lives, I wish you the best of luck with your little person!

I hope this helps you understand where we're coming from.

Yeah it was a nice answer, it did help me understand your point, thank you for it, I appreciate it.

PS: Tangential, but even in most Western countries, being a woman is "factually worse" than being a man - we are paid less, the healthcare systems don't take care of us the same way, we experience domestic violence at higher rates, etc etc

I'm not American and I never thought women were taken care less in hospital, for some reason I always assumed it would be the other way around, aside from the stupidity of making abortion illegal, which is just... Not gonna stop that from happening, it's just gonna stop it from happening in a safe way, it's not like people didn't find a way to have an abortion in the past or, worse, dump kids in a trash bin. And as for the money, I do hear it often than women make less than men and it's so weird to me, me and my female colleagues earn the same amount, those who are the same "rank" as me, which is sadly pretty low, obviously the ones of a better rank earn more, as it should be.

I wonder how many other countries have such a difference. And why that difference is there anyway.

I don't want to make it about guys, I'm asking if there is a substantial difference.

This is also an AMA, ask me anything. I could've asked "what's your favorite food", it wouldn't have been about her book or the topic of her book and you wouldn't have complained.

The thing is that I believe the problem is widespread and not focused on a specific gender. And I'm saying I believe, I'm not stating it as an absolute fact.

I came here for a discussion and to potentially change my opinion.

Among my friends I have women, and while, yes, they have received some unpleasant messages, they thankfully never experienced threats or other terrible things you mention in your post.

I, as a guy, have received my fair share of unpleasant messages too, and believe it or not, I had someone violently knocking at my door at 2AM because of an argument online.

I'm sure that plenty of men have received their share of unpleasant messages and threats, not to mention being criticized for their appearance and other traits they can't help with.

I hate the guy, but I saw plenty of comments about Ben Shapiro's height and voice.

What I wrote so far may sound like I'm trying to discredit what you're saying or calling you out on a lie, but that's not the case, I assure you. Now for the question, if you're even still answering them this far late:

Why would you say that gender is truly a cause for these treatments and not just having an opinion different from those who send threats and criticize what one writes or how they look? What about being a woman makes all this worse than when a man goes through it?

There's countries where being a woman is factually worse, where women are treated like inferior beings, which is disgusting, and in those places, yes, being a woman is dangerous both offline and online.

I realize that this question may seem very ignorant, and it is, yes, and I'm not ashamed of it, I'm asking to learn so... See? I'm already worried of being flamed here.